Dating versus marriage
Strong and powerful families liked to have more control over their assets and married their children off in arranged marriages.
This secured their political position, helped them form alliances and made sure that their assets and titles remained in the extended families.
What Zhao found was, if not scientifically rigorous, then romantically revealing.
First, she compared some of the most commonly-used terms in the couple's text messages—"love," "ok," "dinner," and, yes, "hey"—looking at their distribution in year one versus year six.
The stability of dating relationships is significantly lower than in marriage.
Often, these courtships led to successful marriages that lasted lifelong.
Fast forward to today’s dating scene and we see surface-level connections, one night stands, and high divorce rates.
As Zhao notes, the relative distribution of those terms loosely tracks the comfort that set in as the pair shifted their interactions from on-phone to in-person. ' to 'ok, sounds good,'" she writes in a blog post explaining the project.
"We stopped saying each other’s names in our text messages.In time, this concept has suffered changes and has been regulated to comply with human rights provisions.