Dating moving very slowly
I've received responses from women who insist they've met their true love and are dating him exclusively, but are open to friendship.
I have enough friends already, and I find it curious that a woman who has found the love of her life still posts her profile online.
I do want to point out that it's not just men that pull the slow fade; it is a move that transcends gender and sexual orientation.
Going off the notion that we all want to run, is that the number one thing we want to run from is an uncomfortable situation: "the talk." It's awkward and uncomfortable and if we can run from that with a relatively clean conscience we will.
What happens is this: The guy knows it's time to break up but—thinking he's a gentle soul—he doesn't want to hurt anyone. We love to avoid the issue ("we" being a good many of us, not just men I believe).
You wait for that text bubble to appear: he replies. You can read the signs; either they're dead in a ditch or their interest suddenly is elsewhere. He described his thought process as lying to himself. Most guys convince themselves that they are saving the woman they have been seeing from heartbreak by not directly saying, "It's not me; it's you." Even if they know it's not the most straight-forward move.
Then there's the issue of dating etiquette, which doesn't appear to exist at all, and since there aren't any rules, dating behavior ranges from polite to rude.
You're texting back and forth every hour and then...nothing. I turned to one friend, Slash (yes I have a friend named Slash), who admitted to pulling the disappearing act about 6 or 7 times in the past year alone.
"There's only so many times I can tell a woman I'm not available to date her before it gets into tricky territory," Greg said. ' because if so I will start doing that."One friend thought that there is a lot of pressure from women to find out where a relationship is going and that in turn puts undue pressure on a situation, causing men to freak out and run. For some people that means they try to run to the next step of a relationship; for others the very idea of that makes them run from the relationship entirely.
If you want to avoid the slow fade, just be straight-forward with the people you date and communicate how much you value honesty.
And try to just enjoy the other person and their company. It's a dating move so common the term has become common parlance. Deluding ourselves that we are being kind in being indirect? One man I talked to said that he feels like he is very clear with the women he dates but they don't always listen. "Why is there always another step that needs to be taken in the relationship? There is something primal in each of us that doesn't want to just be with a given situation.