Dating as a single dad
Many women wonder why it didn't work out with their first go around or assume that they made a mistake in their past relationship.The truth is that most single dads are great dating prospects - keep reading to see why.I wasn’t ready to share my life with someone and really needed the time to grow and figure out who I was, and what I really wanted in my life.When I finally decided that I was ready to date again, I had this expectation that dating in your 30s was going to be just like dating in your 20s.As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son."At first I took it personally," said the Orlando, Fla., information technology analyst, who was 32 when he divorced and got joint custody of his then 5-year-old son."I found it very arbitrary that before they got to know me, they had decided against me."But as Ruyter cycled through "close to 100" first dates and a few long-term girlfriends (a scheduling feat, considering half his week was devoted to his son), his romantic standards heightened in ways they may not have pre-fatherhood.[Tweet This] Routine in family life is important even under ideal circumstances, and parenting is Job One. Of course, a lot depends on where things are with their mom; but, when in doubt, err on the side of discretion. Accountability is always a good call, but it’s especially helpful when you’re exploring these new relationships.
No matter how you slice it, dating as a single dad is tricky business and there’s no easy route.
Derek Maul is the author of five books, a nationally recognized men’s resource, a committed encourager, and a pilgrim in progress.